She Fled From Home

She Fled From Home

A family of Romotey from one of the West African countries moved to America about 40 years ago. Romotey was a reverend gentleman who eventually got the necessary America papers that qualified him to become a citizen of the country as well as the rest members of his family. When his first child who happens to be a lady, Toluine, wanted to get married, this man and his wife decided to send to their kinsman at home to help them look for a responsible man in the country, from a Christian home and who is himself saved to be married to his daughter.

The man contacted, Bablo, is also a pastor and on hearing that decided to put the matter into prayers. All the brothers he knew in his church and around those whom he thought were believers were put into prayers, but God did not sanction them. The man became disturbed. He thus involved other Christian people to join him in prayers so that a responsible male person would be found for his brother’s daughter to be married to.

They eventually find someone, brother Timjay whom their mind became clear on to be married to Toluine, the lady in America, the photo of the man was taken and sent by courier to America, because as at this time, the social media have not been established. After a long while, the person’s photo got to the Romotey’s family in America. Reverend Romotey was glad that his brother could get for his daughter someone. He kept the photo until his daughter got home from her office, the man and his wife called their daughter, Toluine, and showed her the message they received from their country in west Africa, which included the photo of the Christian Brother, Timjay, they have found for her, but Toluine after looking at the photo told her parents that she does not love the person she was seeing in the photo. She was given a time to think about it, because her parents said sometimes it does happen like that, that one would not love the person one is seeing in a photo, but on another look, she might like him.

Toluine left them and after 3 days she was called again by her parents to ask her what her resolution was about brother Timjay. Toluine did not hesitate in her response to her parents as she told them point blank that she did not like the man.

“Very well then” her parents said and since she is the one who will be living with the man till death do them part, they have to send another message back to her father’s sibling, Bablo, in the west Africa country that their daughter did not like the person she saw in the photo that they should help her look for someone else.

Pastor Bablo in the west Africa country had to tell his prayer partners that his brother’s daughter did not like brother Timjay and that they should help him in continuing to look for a decent man who is also a believer, because they know that a believer would neither maltreat his brother’s daughter nor dupe them when he is taken to America.

The people in the west Africa country continue to search for who the chosen person shall be and who will equally be loved by Toluine, on seeing his picture. About 90 days after receiving the message, they got for Toluine another brother, but again the Toluine on seeing his photo said she did not like the man…. After the third person’s photo was rejected by Toluine, her parents could not send message to Pastor Bablo at home again because he was wearied of how choosy their daughter was.

When Pastor Bablo and his prayer partners in the west Africa country did not receive any message from Reverend Romotey, they knew that Toluine has rejected the person too and they decided to be looking for another person without letting anyone know.

Invited Minister

One of the prayer partners of Pastor Bablo, Pastor Oguns, usually held a quarterly retreat for the Christian Youths in the neighbourhood and he used to invite different ministers to minister at the program. A vibrant youth minister called Engar was invited to this program to minister to the Youths.

Pastor Bablo who has been contracted to look for hubby for Toluine was also at the meeting, although that day was not the day he will be ministering but having looked at his schedule and discovered that he has no engagement, he decided to fellowship with his friend at the Youth retreat that evening.

During the course of evangelist Engar’s ministration to the brethren at the summit, pastor Bablo was moved by the spirit because he liked the method of evangelist Engar’s ministration and he decided to make inquiries into his privacy.

He talked to his friend pastor Oguns about evangelist Engar. Pastor Oguns told pastor Bablo that evangelist Engar is just been called into the ministry and he is on fire for the Lord. Pastor Bablo asked about his family. Pastor Oguns told him that evangelist Engar is the second son of the founder of a church in another town very close by. He however is not sure about his marital life, but if they can get to his parent, I know his parent would tell them about his marital life.

Pastors Bablo and Oguns agreed to pay a visit to evangelist Engar’s parents to greet them and make inquiries into their son’s marital life.

A Visit to Engar’s Family

When they got to the parents of evangelist Engar, their parents were very surprised to see pastor Oguns for it has been a while that they had seen him last. The developments about his ministry were gotten from their son, Evangelist Engar.

Pastor Oguns apologized for the distance between them saying it was due to the challenges of the ministry that he is facing asking the old man to continue to pray for him and his ministry that they keep growing.

Pa Engar senior told him that he has not for once relented in praying for him as well others coming up in the ministry. After they have discussed about the ministry Pa Engar was asked of where his son, evangelist Engar is and he was told that evangelist Engar was not around as he has gone on visitation to some members of the church.

They asked to know if he was married or engaged and they were told that he was yet to be married but as for engagement, they cannot say anything about that, because he is yet to bring anyone home. He may be engaged to a lady and they were still studying themselves his parents replied them, but he is yet to bring the person to them.

They were happy to hear this and asked evangelist Engar’s father to please help them ask him because they have a beautiful Christian damsel who is seeking for a husband and in case evangelist Engar is yet to be attached, they would love him and the lady to get involved. Pa Engar promised to do that for him and that they should come back to get the information. They promised to return the following day because they want everything resolved as soon as possible.

After they left, Evangelist Engar returned home and he was briefed that pastor Oguns and Bablo visited the family and asked after him. He was glad to hear that they visited the family and felt sorry that he was not on ground to welcome them.

Pa Engar then asked his son of the welfare of the brethren he has visited, and he gave them the detailed information of those visited and then he was asked about his fiancée, because it will not be good of him not to be involved with someone because the ministry requires a good, decent, diligent and a Christian sister.

Evangelist Engar told his parent that he was involved with a lady, but the lady at that moment has been like the leaf by the sea side, verily unstable, but since he was yet to get someone else, he was still hanging on to her.

Pa Engar was glad to hear this and told him that Pastors Oguns and Bablo that came to the house said they have a good Christian sister who is seeking for a man to be married to. They have been on the search for a while but have not gotten for the lady a suitable person, but when he was ministering Pastor Bablo said something touched his heart that you are the person they have been searching for, for the lady. Since they did not know much about you, they have to come to be sure that what they are feeling is true about you after all. They will be coming tomorrow, and they will be able to fill you in with every other detail about the damsel, Pa. Engar told his son.

Evangelist Engar thanked his father and told him that he would be waiting for them the following day.

As discussed, Pastors Oguns and Bablo arrived the following day to discuss with evangelist Engar. They asked him about his love life and Evangelist Engar said it was nothing serious, and that he cannot really call that love because the lady itself has been playing hide and seek game with him and if he sees anyone, he is ready to leave her.

They were elated to hear that from him, and they told him that they will need to collect his photo and send it to the lady where she was because she was in another continent.

Pastor Bablo told Evangelist Engar that the lady’s name is Toluine she is a niece to him, it is her father who is his elder brother. He is the one who sent message to him that he should assist him in looking for a Christian brother in their land who is ready for marriage to connect the person and his daughter together. They have gotten some brothers before, but the lady did not like any of the earlier brother’s photos sent to her. On seeing you when you were ministering, my mind said I should connect you with her, for who knows it maybe you that she will love.

Having come of age without a definite lady in his life, Evangelist Engar agreed to this set up and he gave them one of his recent pictures to be sent to the young lady in America.

He is The One

Pastor Bablo and his friend, Pastor Oguns went and send the photo of Evangelist Engar immediately and he faxed his brother that he has gotten someone, that they will soon get the person’s photo. His brother was short of words when he saw the message, because he thought he was no longer working on it.

Looking at photo

When the photo got to them and lady Toluine saw the photo, she likes the man and said this is the person she would love to marry and in fact that this was the kind of person she saw in her dream. She equally sent him her photo through her uncle.

They were happy that the person eventually found the person she loves and sent to West Africa country to tell the person and that the lady would like to be communicating with him. But Evangelist Engar, was from a humble (or poor) background, so how would they be communicating? They did not have telephone at home (then, telephone was not as common as this, it could only be found in the rich people’s houses). The intermediary, Pastor Bablo has telephone in his house and he told Evangelist Engar that he should be coming to his house to talk with his spouse, lady Toluine.

They got on well on the telephone such that the lady decided to come to her country home for the first time in twenty years. She left the country with her father when she was five years old and now she is going to twenty-six years old.

Love brought her back to her country, the West Africa country because she wants to be a part of the convocation ceremony of her spouse. Evangelist Engar, has just finished from one of the Theological Seminary Schools in their country and the convocation would be held the following month. She decided to be there with him.

It was all fun being together. They took so many photos together shared so many things together visited different events and recreational centers together. Having been known to be involved with each other, the lady does not see anything wrong with them having intercourse with each other before she leaves for America. She is for him, he is for her, why can’t they have sexual intoercouse with each other she asked Evangelist Engar? Evangelist Engar told her that in as much as he also desires that something like that happened between them, but he still feels they needed to at least pay the bride price before something like that would happen, for this is what would give me a say in the ministry in the future he said.

Lady Toluine agreed with Evangelist Engar and they decided that they would speed up everything having known each other now, there should be no delay again. They agreed to be wedded in three months’ time.

Back to America

Based on the agreement reached, she returned to America and Evangelist Engar saw her off to the airport as she left. On getting to America the family of Romotey did not approve their daughter marrying Evangelist Engar again saying that he did not come from a rich family, someone whose parents cannot afford ordinary telephone at their homes let alone car. How would they allow their daughter to be married to that kind of person? They did not approve her marrying him again.

Toluine told her parents that she had fallen heads over heels in love with Evangelist Engar, that every of her thought has been centered on the man. The family would not bulge. The lady because of this decided to leave his parents’ home, cut off all communications with her parents because they have denied her of her joy.

She thought about coming to the west Africa country to see her love, but she discovered that her parents have removed all her documents from where it was kept so that she will not be able to move without their consent. She decided to work things out herself before making attempt to visit the west Africa country to see her love and take him with her to where she lives.

While she was working on this, Pastor Bablo who has been accommodating Evangelist Engar and allowing him to talk with his spouse did not allow him to use his telephone again. He will give one excuse after the other for why the telephone line cannot be used.

When Evangelist Engar was not a fool, he discovered that something was amiss. This was how Evangelist Engar and Toluine could not communicate again. That was how their fire of love was put out and they couldn’t marry again.

The Meeting

Evangelist Engar shifted to alternative plan and it was continuing with the lady in the country. This lady having seen that she almost lost Evangelist Engar, she decided to adjust herself and started behaving well. Soon it became clear that the Americana would not come home for Evangelist Engar again, he thence started planning how he would lead the lady to the altar.

As the Americana, Toluine, had thought, so the lady Evangelist Engar was seeing also thought, she equally wanted to become pregnant for Evangelist Engar, this was because people were saying that Evangelist Engar should get married to show that he is a responsible man who can take care of the church. Evangelist Engar did not allow what they were saying to hold him bound, as he insisted on going about everything the normal way. He wants to be able to pay the bride price of his spouse even if he cannot do any other thing on her. To do this he needs money and thus he started saving for it since his parent is now aged and could not run around for him again. The lass agreed to this and they were working towards this.

Admission For Advanced Studies

While he continued with this, he has however applied for an Advanced Theological Seminary in Canada, as fate would have it, the admission eventually got through and he left for Canada. There he met another lady from one of the Caribbean countries and got married to her seven years after the truncation of his love with Toluine.

He never knew the marriage would work because again the parents of the lady would not want her daughter to get married to a black let alone marrying someone from the African countries. Well the lady, Shantey also insisted that she would be married to Engar or no other person. When the pressure was being mounted on her, Shantey had to flee her parents’ home.

Talking to receptionist

After weeks of searching for her, they found her and having discovered what the mind of their daughter was, they decided to let her be, and support her dream and visions to marry the African man, praying that she would not regret her action. After their short wedding ceremony, they left for America for their honey moon.

When they were in America, Evangelist Engar remembered Toluine whom he would have been married to and decided to cross check his sent mail column to see her email address. After a long while, he got the email address and decided to contact her to know if she is yet using the email. Fortunately for him she was still using the email address. Her parents have released her emails and other things to her when they discovered that she has taken her mind off Evangelist Engars.

Evangelist Engar sent email to her and she replied. She was glad to know that he is now in America and thought they could come together again, because since then she has not been married, she could not find anyone responsible and loving. But Evangelist Engar told her that they cannot come together in love relationship again, because when the incident happened, he knew that something was amiss, this prompted him to start sending her electronic mails, at least if he cannot afford calling her, he can afford sending her emails through the cybercafe, and this he was regularly doing, expecting to hear her side of the story so that they can both agree on what to do and how to maneuver the incident, but she neither acknowledges the receipt of any of the e-mails nor respond to any. When that happened, Evangelist Engar thought she has eventually given in to her people’s counsel and he must move on with his life. He told her that his thought about her then was that she must have been married, thus, he stopped sending her messages.

The main reason why they cannot come together again is that he is now married to a Caribbean woman and they were in America for honey moon and holiday that was why he decided to check on her.

She was sad on hearing that. They although arranged to meet at the lobby of the hotel where Evangelist Engar and his wife were doing their honey moon.