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AMERICANA'S DIARY VI: NOT TOO LATE "What is it about Shabado? " Bodmas asked " You know when we finished from secondary school, he could not further his education claiming that he is the only child of his parents and that his parents asked him to go and marry", Dee said, taking a bite of the pie as he looked at Bodmas "I don't think I have inkling into this part of the story of his life, but, I know that he did not further his academics and had to marry Yaby baby whom he has been close with since our JSS 3 days", Bodmas said.   "Thank gracious that you know the lady he married. But, the story that led to his marriage after our O Level is what I am telling you now... " " Hen hen ", Bodmas said surprisingly   " He is the only child of his parents, and his parents are aged by the time we finish from school, they thus have to tell him to make them happy by marrying someone when they were yet alive. And since Yaby baby an...

AMERICANA’S DIARY V: NOT TOO LATE “I will definitely do, make enquiries into her marital satatus, I know she will be willing to discuss that with me” Bodmas said “I will be glad if you can do that for me”, Segun said Footsteps of Shade was heard as Bodmas father and his friends were heard laughing in the living room, Shade brought the pies verily hot, just removed from the oven “Ẹ kú ìkàlẹ sirs” Shade greets as she genuflected, about 5 centimeters from the table at the centre in the fron of the trio friends “O se jare” Bodmas replied “Ẹ ku isẹ ma” Segun said “Shade has always be accommodating, and full of hospitality since day 1 that I have known her” Dee said “Uhmn mn, was that so?” She paused after putting the pies in the plates on the table as she turned to Dee “Oh yea” Dee responded “Ẹ se sir, old habits die hard so the grammarians say” Shade says “That is good of you, because keeping this up would give you an edge over others before your spouse, would endear...

AMERICANA’S DIARY IV: NOT TOO LATE Bodmas says after gulping down the drink in his mouth, “I am ready to pay the money, it is sommer that “em” I will issue you a bank draft which will be backdated to 2000” “That means when my friend wants to catch the money the money would be praid with interest “niyen” o, the interests on it would be mine or aint you gonna give me?”, Dee said “With heart full of joy would I have given you, but don’t you notice the laxity in what our Americana just said? He has included American style in his payment oh and I doubt the reality of such money”, I said as I take the wine into my mouth to push down the chinchin I have grounded with my premolars and molar teeth “No I did not”, Dee replied as Bodmas was laughing “That means you will not be a good Security personnel”, I said smiling “I have known myself, that was why I “jejely” went for Biological sciences in the University, reading inferences? I am damn bad in it, I don’t even know how I scored A...

SOME OF THE THINGS TO NOTE AND KNOW ABOUT MARITAL DELAY 8 20. Some people have marital delay because of the kind of person in their heart to be married to. Some wanted to marry renown stars, one of those stars she or he is seeing on the Television/Reading on the pages of newspapers, most especially those who are into sports, actors/actresses, such a person would be day dreaming everytime to be married to such a one and because of that when some promising people are approachin g the person she or he would not pay so much attention to the signs being shown because she/he has been married to a famous person whom she/he never sees neither comes across. 21. Another thing that could cause this kind of delay is wanting to marry a foreigner. Some because of a reason or another has "deposited" it in their minds that they will be married to a white person or a black person. However, here they are at other part of the world where white or black person is not domina...

SOME OF THE THINGS TO NOTE AND KNOW ABOUT MARITAL DELAYS 7 19. BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHER SIBLINGS FINANCIAL STATUS: Some do have delays in getting married because they have been the sole person responsible for the financial upkeep of their family and they know that when they get married at that time it may be difficult for them to meet with those challenges and obligations as such they decide to sacrifice this aspect of their lives for the time being so that their family members would be delivered. These are some of the things that is causing delay in getting married by some people and I really pray as we see these, the Lord will help us navigate those curves and bends as well as giving us a breakthroughs in Jesus name. Amen.

AMERICANA'S DIARY III:NOT TOO LATE Mr Bodmas as he was popularly called by us when we were in Secondary School those days has travelled out of the country called Nigeria for quite a while, the news I had about him was that he has been secretive and discretional in given out his phone numbers, even to some of the closest friends of his. Why was this? It was due to the fact that he was yet struggling, he was yet to find his feet in the States, so giving out his fone number to friends who may wish to call him at any time will put him at risk let alone that this may also turn him to a liar because of the instability this instability has made him to be on his toes in the States moving from a place to another until he has a stay.  Having heard this from friends, I cannot but take his matter of my heart just internally joining others to pray with him that God prospers his way.  Not long ago, I saw an old secondary school mate who told me that Mr Bodmas is i...

SOME OF THE THINGS TO NOTE AND KNOW ABOUT MARITAL DELAYS 6 16. ACADEMIC PURSUIT: this is seriously also has affected people’s marital life because their minds would always be there to break the barrier but we have to know that the world is fast changing and there are part time studies which are equally good, which are helpful and this will not stop this aspect of life. I think such is happening in the advanced climes thus making them not to lose out many years as we usually d o here. Whether you are withdrawn from an institution or a course or whatever, all that you need to do is try other means, make other moves, try this distance learning courses ad degrees as you do this you will be combining the same with your marital life and you wont lose so much time as the devil may have been planning for you to lose in the first instance, beat the devil to it, just do not be stagnant. 17. TRAVELLING OUT: thinking about travelling out too do bring delay in getting married, ge...

COURAGE AND PATIENCE INVOLVED IN STARTING A BUSINESS FROM THE SCRATCH 11 Do not be discouraged, do not entertain fear as if to mean when you are doing your business you won’t get to heaven by not closing your shop for 7 days when you go and attend the week long program as others who are chanced have done o are doing. You need to always remember the word of apostle Paul to one of his spiritual sons that says, “for God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of sound mind” (II Timothy 1:7). This wonderful Apostle in his epistle to the Romans also made it clear that the spirit of fear is the spirit of bondage and he was explicit in his words to them that our God, Yahweh, Jehovah has not given us such spirit. “For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father” (Romans 8:15) That fear that has been deeply sitted in your heart is not from God, it is from the d...

COURAGE AND PATIENCE INVOLVED IN STARTING A BUSINESS FROM THE SCRATCH 10 4. RELIGIOUS ACTIVITIES: Greater percentage of the inhabitants of the earth practises one religion or another. In practising a religion, we do have time when we shall leave our places to go to the place of worship. Sometimes the time when we shall leave for worship place would be during the time we ought to be making some business transactions, or better put will be the time when we ought to be in our shops. Because of our belief, we will have no option other than closing the shop up to go to the worship venue, particularly when we do not have assistants, when we are still starting up. Here are some of the things I will like us to pay attention to on this issue: (a) Do not close your shop or stall any how based on the pretext that you are going for XYZ programs. How do I mean? Take as instance some will close their shops for weeks, months and say they are going to PPP mountain for prayers. I believe...

COURAGE AND PATIENCE INVOLVED IN STARTING A BUSINESS FROM THE SCRATCH 9 v. Some do complain about enemies, demons, witches, wizards etc affecting their businesses. The bible says there are witches, there are demons, I believe those, but none the less, what about our partnership with our spouses is it cordial? If the partnership we have with our spouses in the past has been far from a cordial one, we already have an opening through which the business would not be able to make appreciable growth and development. For all we know, it may not have been enemies at work, the problems we have on the business may essentially have been originated by lack of cordiality with our spouses, our partner. And as we all know, the enemies are like ghecko or lizards which are always looking for a crack in the wall through which they could enter into the wall. Any small crack they noticed would be used to penetrate into the walls of a building. The problems we are seeing may have been caused ...

COURAGE AND PATIENCE INVOLVED IN STARTING A BUSINESS FROM THE SCRATCH 8 Since this newly borrowed money has no interest attached to it, this would assists the business in no mean measure it will help the business to grow. “Two are better than one; because they have A GOOD REWARD for their labour. “For it they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. “Again, if two lie together, then they have heat; but how can one be warm alone? “And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and A THREEFOLD CORD is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12) These verses are commonly read during wedding, marital counselings, how to choose a love bird. I am however importing it here, because of the relevance in business. When spouses are in accord they will see to the growth of the business, everything that would be on their minds after satisfying God, I mean after being saved and doing the will of ...

GOD, LIFE, STAGNANCY & PROPHET'S COUNSELS The first world was brought to a stand-still by God's antagonists and that was why we read in the Scriptures that God created the heavens and the earth full stop (Gen. 1:1). The full stop in other words mean no further developments, no obvious developments, everything stood still, everything was as it were before, no advancements. God was un-happy with this and He therefore decided to act, His actions brought other developments into the world... When a man and a woman come together and mating occurs, intercourse occurs, to which God says "Amen" leading to the sperm fertilizing the eggs of the woman. This fertilization will result in other changes that will essentialy lead to embryo formation. Other changes to this will lead to fetus & its delivery. All these show that God does not have interest in stagnation. When the child gets to the earth, his/her parents, yea, everyone will expect the child to ...

BEST TEACHER, EXPERIENCE 1: KEEP MOVING I shall like to share with the world today an astute scholar, an Histopathologists, Consultant Gbemi Henry-Edwards. This wonderful consultant has been nursing the ambition of becoming a medical doctor when a child, after he finishes his O Level in Lagos, he got admmitted into University of Lagos (the great Unilag), but not for the course he desires, however because he had known the dilemma associated with stagnancy, he was encouraged by his parents to keep moving, as such he continued with the course with the hope of crossing to Medicine in his 200 Level, but this was not possible, as such he finished the first degree in the mid-80s, went for service. After his compulsory Youth Service he started coaching some students as well as sitting for entrance examinations into Nigeria Universities as well as other Universities outside the shores of Nigeria. But as fate would have it, all those trials did not clicked. During these periods,...

SOME OF THE THINGS TO NOTE AND KNOW ABOUT MARITAL DELAYS 5 13. AGE: as a guy stated one day that “age is just a number”. You have to know that the state of the mind really matters in everything in life. Individual’s state of the mind would determine whether the person would still look fresh and young, even younger than his or her numerical age. If the state of mind of someone has outgrown his/her age, the person would look frail and older than his/her numerical age, and that is when problem arises, because the person may actually been looking at the age while the body would be telling another thing to the outsiders, check the state of heart of the person who loves you and whom you are in love with, this will go a long way 14. EXPERIENCE: we cannot totally rule out the fact that lack of experience in the past too have been a cause of this delay in you getting someone lack of experience in the sense that you think waiting for someone for years really matter, it is a mist...

SEEKING FOR ANSWER I wouldn't know whether you have taken notice of this and if you have not, please do... And who knows may be our scientists will look into this. What we were being taught is that when some things of the same chemical compositions got broken down, they will give the same end products. I have been thinking about the differences in the flatus of people, when some group of people eat the same product take as example beans or meat, let us assume they had been fa sting for some hours before eating any of these, I still discover that the smell of their flatus will still differ. This has been troubling me, and I have been thinking that is it that those products have different end products in each individual? Or does it have some congenital involvements? Or is it the liver's secretion or gall bladder's secretion that has some additional secretions higher than that in the other p erson? I am really hoping that our scientists will do some loo...

WALK THE TALK We often hear so many people say they will like to become this, they will like to become that. When we hear such people talk like that some of us would be happy that "thank God, after all I can get someone who is desirous, someone who aspires to become something good and great in life" After hearing this, some people will keep the words to heart and start to watch the actions and reactions of the person, they will be looking forward to him/her putting things in position to actualize what he/she has said. But histories have been showing that so mmany people talk the walk instead of walking the talking. How do I mean? Take as instance someone who has just graduated from institution of higher learning, someone who knows she/he has no support anywhere, after her/his graduation the person started hoping for Government work, the person does not want private establishment because of what he/she has heard people say. Why can't he start somewhere?...

COURAGE AND PATIENCE INVOLVED IN STARTING A BUSINESS FROM THE SCRATCH 7 the business’ rapid growth buy the regularly demanded for goods at this stage. 3. SPOUSE: This I sectionalized to assist our understanding. (i) Carry your spouse along, let him or her know that busines is different from salary earning and or artisan, because if you do not have goods in your shop, there would be nothing to sell and if you have nothing to sell, how would you make gains? You will not even be happy to go to shop the following day or week, why? It is simply because you do not have goods in your shop to sell. You will be back to square zero if that happens. But in the case of salary earners or artisans this is not so. They are not selling anything. It does not matter whether files are treated or not treated for Salary earners, it does not matter whether the employers take loans to pay the salaries of their employees at the end of the month for salary earners. Salary earners do not pay for t...